Kate takes us on a journey through her life, the circumstances surrounding her diagnosis with cancer, and her struggles to cope and live with this newfound condition. The whys, the hope she had in religious beliefs - the prosperity gospel - saving her and her eventual abandonment of it.
She narrates her struggles with finding solutions. In advice, in recommendations, and moreso in treatment. Her numerous visits to medical specialists hoping that they know and provide precise answers to her predicament and frustration when it didn’t go this way. She was living two months at a time. Every after which she went back to a doctor who told her whether she got to live the next two months...or not. Living in the in between.She recounts several experiences and anecdotes from her daily life with her husband and son, all the while making simple things sound beautiful. One moment she’s recounting a grim atmosphere at the cancer clinic - the next she’s making light of the situation with genuinely hilarious jokes. Her experiences combined, led her to the belief - which I agree with - that not everything happens for a reason. Some questions just don't have answers. Some things happen for no reason that we can know of, some, for no reason at all. We need to accept such things, not make futile attempts to rationalize them as we often do, using religious teachings, karma, science or anything. Hard as we try to explain or justify the reason why they happen, we often just do not really know. Some whys have no because.
Even when we assume everything happens for a reason. That good things happen to good people, and when bad things happen, there's a particular reason. "It's a test of our faith", or punishment for something or a sign of some other thing. As the title suggests, Kate doesn't believe this anymore.
In an interesting conclusion, she mentions several nice things people want to hear especially in suffering. Then things never to say when someone is grieving. Phrases that are quite commonplace which, though with good intentions, could cause more harm than good to the one grieving.
If we need another reminder in addition to the million others around us to live and find joy in the moment - as if everyday was the last. If countless other lectures, experiences and talks have not been enough to convince us in this light - well, this book is one more.